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Productivity: Does Your Life Metaphor Help Or Hinder?

How your Unconscious Metaphor can help you enjoy life

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Introduction

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I recall feeling like punching the speaker repeatedly in the head. A little harsh I know but I was tired. I sat in the conference listening to a well-meaning ‘Time Management Guru’ rattle on about having balance. I was getting a few hours of sleep a night as my 1 year old son had displayed an early Olympic talent as a sleepless wonder. Balance was a panacea that sounded like a myth and only induced a sense of guilt as I felt my life resembled some type of YO-YO fitness test shuttling between cones.

I understood his sentiment and applaud the natural presupposition that we should not live lives out of balance or out of kilter. However, each day as I dragged my sorry ‘you know what’ into work, balance was the last thing I felt like I could attain. I realised that living a life of perfect balance was not only a great cause of guilt but was impossible. The stage of life that I was in and the demands of the situation meant balance was a poor metaphor for where life was at.

If balance was not the best metaphor, then what would be more useful? More on this LATER.

Science: How Metaphors Impact Reasoning and Problem Solving

The metaphors we choose are powerful and govern our thoughts and lives. A recent academic study by Paul H. Thibodeau and Lera Boroditsky showed how the power of a single metaphorical word altered the entire diagnosis and operations of how people reason through a situation.

When the academics changed one metaphorical word in a problem, people offered very different solutions. Their solutions were consistent with the metaphor that they were presented with by the academics. In one of their studies, participants were told to predict the solutions offered by two politicians who were advocating for different approaches to the crime problem. Half of the participants were told that the politician was describing crime as a BEAST. The other half was told the politician was describing crime as a VIRUS.

Interestingly, the participants presented with the beast metaphor, advocated solving the crime problems with solutions such as increased law enforcement and punishment. Alternatively, those participants who were presented with the virus metaphor advocated solving the crime problems with solutions of social reform, improving the economic health and educational system. One word changed their reasoning, interpretation and solutions.

Let’s unpack the metaphor of ‘Balance’tightrope

Balance would insinuate that all competing priorities are of equal value and can therefore be balanced against each other. A person walking across a tight rope would want the balancing bar to be balanced rather than heavily weighted on one side. Naturally, this type of balance is attainable IF you can choose the bar.

However, when facing the demands of work or family it may be something that you don’t have full control over. In life, demands of various weights and shapes are thrust upon you, without your consent.

For example, the mother and father trying to feed, bath and dress their children for bed. Not to mention the inevitable hours coaching them to sleep. The entrepreneur in the early stages of a business start-up who is not only business development manager but also accountant, marketer, HR manager, CEO and coffee getter all in one.

This notion of balance is often impractical for a leader in today’s high-velocity environments. It is virtually impossible to give equal time and attention to two things at once. There is a better analogy for today’s leader that can alleviate stress and increase productivity.

Cue a new metaphor: Seasons

I left the seminar and realised I could fight my current reality in a vain attempt to get balance. I would probably waste a lot of energy and still not attain the nirvana of balance. Not only would I waste energy I would miss out on the enjoyment that I could be embracing. I had a young family, was in a new stage of life and was now a father.

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Procrastination Buster: The ‘2 to 3 Rule’

Do you know it?

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The Annual General Meeting started and the General Manager stood up and said: “If there’s one thing I won’t stand for, it’s procrastination!  All that this organisation ever does is procrastinate, procrastinate, procrastinate!”

An eager staff member stood up, and asked, “What do you propose we DO about it Sir?”

“Well, for a start,” said the General Manager, “I suggest that we take a long and serious look at this problem when we meet for our next Annual General Meeting!”

We all may know a quintessential ‘PUT IT OFF’ person. Who seem to live by the mantra ‘After all is said and done, more is said than done’! A colleague I know describes them as “A lot of Talky Talky and not much Doey Doey”.

The desire to reschedule is ubiquitous. It gives people the feeling the task has been attended to. However, the end result is burgeoning inboxes and escalating ‘to do lists’.

Over the years I have coached 100’s of leaders and the following simple rule has helped many crush procrastination and making them far more productive.

Processing time

In the science of personal productivity is the notion of ‘Processing time’. This is the moment when you are taking control of your week and tasks to be done. It is the reviewing emails, monitoring projects, constructing your actions and to do list.

However, there is a very powerful key that needs to be adhered to during your “processing time”. The Maxim is as follows

If Scheduling = Application, then Action straight away.

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Productivity 2: Do you Suffer from ‘To Do Psychic Anxiety’

Reduce Anxiety and Increase Capacity at the same time

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I was working at the university and it was exam time. As is the custom the atmosphere changes. People scurry to exam venues blurry eyed as they show the remnants of a late night cramming session. Stress and anxiety written all over their faces.

As I walked down to get a coffee I saw a colleague who was doing some postgraduate study and en route to sit an exam. He looked at me, smiled and said “DON’T  talk to me; I am off to sit an exam and I don’t want to LEAK any information”. After an all-nighter, he felt like his brain had reached capacity. Like someone carrying an overfull cup across a room, he did not want to spill any of the precious information.

I am sure we have all had that feeling of “being at capacity”. There is no more room for work, distraction or information.

Capacity is not an infinite resource. We all have our limits but what you don’t know is that you can FREE UP some capacity. More on this later.

Question: How many times have you been asked or asked someone else

  • “Can you remind me about  _________________ ?” or
  • “Please don’t let me forget _________________ ?”

The reason people say this is because a ‘task to be done’ is weighing on their minds. They are fearful they will forget and it is causing them psychic anxiety. This fear indicates they do not have a system that they trust to ensure the task will get completed. With this in mind their solution is, make someone else responsible for remembering the task.

To make matters worse, a collection of little tasks all start to weigh heavily on the individual. These ‘to do’s’ take up cognitive (brain space) capacity that could be used for more productive activities.  Instead, consciously they are trying to ensure all tasks are remembered.

The end result is a form of Psychic Anxiety. A constant worrying about possible missed tasks.

  • Jobs that you don’t want to forget.
  • Bills to be payed,
  • People to be contacted or
  • Subscriptions to cancel.
  • Items you must remember to buy at the shops

It’s all true

Psychic Anxiety2You may have heard yourself saying “I have a lot on my mind”, chances are you quite literally do. Unconsciously, we may be mentally juggling tasks. Shuffling cognitive resources in a vain attempt to give our full attention to a project at hand.

According to research, our ability to think creatively gets lost when our minds are trying to keep track of the ‘to do’s’. The end result being that you feel preoccupied and you lack focus and attention.
Psychic Anxiety3cThe notion that these mental “to do’s” are using up precious brain power is being validated by the scientific community. Professor John-Dylan Haynes from the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences, has through functional magnetic resonance imaging been able to map what part of the brain is unconsciously active while we hold these ‘to do’s in your head. Unconsciously using up mental capacity that could be put to better use.

The Solution is Cognitive Off-Loading

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Productivity: Are you OBT or TBT?

Do you know the difference?

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I recall early in my career starting a new job and proudly ticking all the items off my to-do list. I was very happy with myself. Strolled down the hall looking for someone to celebrate my achievement with. Upon meeting an older mentor, I waited for the inevitable questions. “How are you doing”, he asked. Just the question I had expected. “Up to date and Just cleared ‘my’ to do list … Feeling great” I proudly announced. To which he responded, “Wow, I have not been up to date for 25 years”.

I smiled but inwardly thought to myself. ‘Talk about unorganised. How can you not complete all the tasks on your To-Do list’?

It only took a couple months before I realised I was going to be in the same boat. As the department grew and pressure mounted I came to the swift realisation. I WILL NEVER BE UP TO DATE. Projects and tasks need to be prioritised and SOME would NEVER get done.

It was then that I realised I need to ask myself a new question. More on that to come.

The Science Behind our Challenge

At any given moment, we are constantly bombarded by signals from our five senses. With this onslaught of input, how do we manage to not go completely insane? The key is that we pay attention to only a small proportion of that information and throw much of it away. This process is known as selective filtering or selective attention, and most people do it all the time.

Our Brain is constantly trying to resolve what it should Focus on. Where should the focus of attention be. To do this it resolves questions we ask ourselves. This means that the quality of questions they ask will determine what we focus on. When I coach my clients, I do so with the understanding that the questions I ask influences the direction of their thinking.

For example, if I ask you “What will ‘X’ get you?” you will tend to think about specific things (more money, less stress, more time). However, if I ask you “What will that do for you?” you are more likely to come up with more value based abstract answers (freedom, contentment, acceptance).

Your brain unconsciously filters out unimportant details as it resolves ‘what to focus on’. However, you can consciously control what you brain Selectively Filters and Increase your productivity.

The Question that boosts Productivity

Considering the many demands for your attention you NEED to DECIDE in advance what your brain is going to filter for and hence focus on.

If you are like any person working in a pressured environment, you could probably end up with multiple to-do list items that need to get done While you neatly prioritise them with the obligatory A, B and C’s next to each item, you know they will be replaced almost immediately with new tasks and you will never again in your life get a clean slate. It may leave you feeling like Sisyphus, in Greek mythology, who was condemned to roll a rock up to the top of a mountain, only to have the rock roll back down to the bottom every time he reaches the top. For Eternity.

To make matters worse people often allow someone or something else to control their focus. The first step toward taking back your focus and achieving more is to ask a new type of question.

Outcome Based Thinking vs Task Based Thinking

The challenge is that many people are focused on Task Based Thinking (TBT). At the start of every day they ask themselves some form of the following questions

“What do I need to do today?”

With this in mind the Selective filter is now set. Your brains ‘Focus of Attention’ is on TASKS, Things to do. It will have no problem coming up with enough tasks to fill your day, perhaps even many days to follow. Leaving you feeling behind the eight ball and overwhelmed with the magnitude of what needs to get done.

Alternatively, you can engage in ‘Outcome Based thinking” (OBT). Outcome Based thinking is a key element to leadership productivity that starts by determining what our mind pays attention to.

Instead of asking “What should I do?” Outcome based thinking starts by asking

“What Outcomes Do I Want?”

A focus on outcomes will quickly change your selective filtering system. Bringing to attention the outcomes you want rather than the tasks to be done. A focus on outcomes will change what you should be spending your time doing. It may begin to deliver fresh ways that you can achieve an outcome rather than get stuck in the daily grind of operations.

Naturally, there may be many derivatives of asking outcome based questions. For example, you could ask

  • What is the ultimate outcome?
  • What is the goal I am trying to achieve?
  • What results are we looking for?
  • What will make today successful?

Leaders who know what they ‘want’ see the world differently. More importantly people selectively attend to things that interest or excite them. Often these are positive outcomes, goals and results.  So, when you decide what you want, your mind filters for how to see that outcome fulfilled.  It’s like buying a new car. You start seeing it everywhere

Value OF OBT

1.      Greater Creativity

Outcome based thinking can lead you to more creative insight due to directing your thinking in a way that requires a creative answer. It may disregard the traditional process to achieving an outcome and find creative ways to achieve the same result.

2.      Greater Connection to ‘Why’

Outcome based thinking helps people to connect to what is important rather than the mundane.

3.      Higher Energy

People enjoy attending to things that interest or excite them.

4.      Improved Teamwork

Outcome-based thinking gets everyone aligned first, before you even begin to think about your individual tasks. This way, creating measurable results is effective and achievable.

TEAM EXERCISE

Question 1: The Outcome we want to achieve is?

Get the team together and work toward coming to consensus on the answer to the question:

What is our outcome we are focusing on?

Have each person write down what they think it is on a piece of paper. (All of the answers may be different – maybe extremely or slightly so, but they certainly won’t be 100% alike.)

Question 2: What can we stop doing and still achieve the outcome?

This helps to evaluate activities that do not best serve the outcome.

Question 3: What will help us achieve the outcome faster?

This helps prioritise what needs to be done.

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Have You Experienced Vujá dé

Fact: You Have Experienced Vujá dé … so what is it?

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“That’s just what I needed to hear” I proclaimed to a friend as we all shared a meal together. My wife looked at me incredulously, “I have been telling you that for years, then ‘THEY’ say it and you think it is a great idea”. Deep down inside I knew it was true but I could not help the feeling that it seemed to make MORE sense NOW than BEFORE.

Everybody has heard of Deja vu, right? That “I have been there before” feeling. The French origins actually directly translate “already seen” (déjà, already + vu, seen)

But have you heard of its opposite ‘Vuja de’ (pronounced as “voo zha-day”)”.

Vujá dé is that moment of clarity when something becomes “all of a sudden clear” You discovering something new in something you’ve already seen a million times before.

In our innovation seminars, we often discuss a technique called “Fresh Eyes”. Which was aptly described by the French novelist Marcel Proust when he said, “The real act of discovery consists not in finding new lands but in seeing with new eyes.”

I am sure when the young Isaac Newton saw an apple fall from a tree in his mother’s garden in Lincolnshire, it was not the first time that had occurred in his life. It was not “WOW I have never seen an apple fall before” moment. Rather, Newton experienced a Vujá dé moment, had fresh eyes and went on to devise his theory of gravity after witnessing an apple falling from a tree.

Right Time Right Place

In my life, I have often been surprised by those moments where knowledge turns into insight. Call it what you like

  • A Eureka moment
  • An Epiphany
  • A moment of clarity
  • A moment when a thought moves from the head to the heart
  • A revelation
  • A moment of insight

What has been surprising is the fact that for some reason old information makes sense at a level it did not before. Despite the fact you have known a concept for years, like a ‘bolt of lightning’ the right person, in the right place and the right times says it in the right way and you have your Vujá dé moment.

You then respond, “Wow, what a great thought”. It then impacts us in a way that is enlightening and its motivational force is profound. People look at you “What is the big deal”.

The big deal was prior to that time your mind was not open or ready to receive the information. You did not really believe it. Then one day it hits you like a sledgehammer. On that day you were at a point in your life when you were ready to hear it, ready to absorb it and ready to act on it. Thus, it created the illusion that it magically made its appearance at that particular moment. 

Leaders FLICK the SWITCH and FACILITATE VUJADE

We often encounter people who make dramatic changes in their lives. It may be fitness, diet or some level of success that is impacting. It is impacting because it was a struggle for the person and then a metaphorical switch gets flicked and their lives change.  A common denominator you will notice is they were ready.  They were ready for success, ready for change, ready to see themselves better than they were.

Many have heard of the old maxim “When the student is ready the teacher will arrive.”

This alludes to the moment when we are ready to gain insight. The teacher is not necessarily a person but rather metaphorical. That moment when you see a situation slightly differently and it hits you like a ton of bricks. That moment of clarity. An epiphany. The essence of Vuja de is not merely seeing things with fresh eyes. It is getting yourself ready to receive an insight that is more than head knowledge. It is facilitating a moment of clarity.

It is a leader’s role to facilitate this ‘Readiness’’ for people, teams, and organizations.

How do Leaders Facilitate

Here are four tips for cultivating VUJA DE.

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Mid-Year Boost

Create A Halftime Strategy Using The “4 SO WHAT?” Questions And Transform The Next 6 Months

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Great teams can turn around a poor performance in the second half and great coaches appreciate the half time break. It is a time to adjust tactics, affirm what is going well and perhaps even turn around what has not been ideal first half. For you, it is half way through the year and you have 6 months ahead of you. Things have gone well and no doubt there have been challenges.

Whether you are looking at your personal life, leading a team or a corporation, the fundamental questions are.

  • How can I make the next 6 months better than the first?
  • What adjustments need to be made?
  • How can I keep tracking towards achieving my goals?

Today I want to introduce the “So WHAT” evaluation. However, my coaching has found that people have two paradigms when the words, ‘SO WHAT’ are uttered. It all depends on the intention of the person delivering them. For some, the ‘SO WHAT’ is a statement and for others it is an inquiry.

The ‘Statement’ Types

For those whom SO WHAT is a Statement, It can mean whatever they are assessing “is not important” and infers the statement “I don’t care”. You will hear responses like

  • “So what if I don’t achieve the targets. I am getting paid anyway!” and
  • “The CEO won’t like it, you know.” “So what – I don’t care what they think!”

For them, ‘SO WHAT’ is a full stop and shines the light on a fatalistic approach to their reality. They act as if ‘life is happening to them’ and little of what they do will make a difference. In truth, the outcomes of the past 6 months can be extrapolated for the remainder of the year and each year following. From my coaching experience, people with this intention tend to be

  • Uninspired by the life they are living
  • Achieve fewer goals
  • Get less career advancement
  • Do not maximise their potential.

The Inquiry Types

For those whom, ‘SO WHAT’ indicates inquiry tend to be flexible, more likely to succeed and have a positive attitude that puts them on the cause side of the equation. They believe what they choose to do will change the reality they experience.

I had a wise mentor who used to challenge me whenever I was in the throes of crafting a speech. “Aiden”, he would say. “Be plagued by the question “SO WHAT?” He paused and looked intently at me and said, “Ask yourself that every time you get up to speak.”

I have found that those with the inquiry approach to, ‘SO WHAT?’ quickly identify priorities and figure out what is important. It brings a focus and clarity to life that keeps them heading in the right direction.

Ask ‘SO WHAT’ 4 times.

To maximise the second half of the year ask, ‘SO WHAT?’ four times with a slightly different emphasis each time. If you are going to do this properly ensure you do it in writing. Get four pieces of paper and head each page with each of the questions and commit at least 5 min to answer each.

Number 1: SO WHAT Happened?So What Happened

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Why Teenagers are Deaf

And What Leaders Can Learn From The Cure

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Teenager

Parents try in vain to speak to their teenagers but nothing gets through. Perhaps the teenager may be suffering from a condition called ‘Annoying Auditory Gap Hell’, aka “aargh”. This is not a new condition but prevalent amongst teenagers. It is due to the small empty space that exists between their ears and the thinking part of the brain. They can audibly hear but the information cannot transition to their thinking part. I contemplated taking my teenagers for a medical assessment but the condition often rectifies with age. However, sadly, there are some people who never grow out of it.

You may have heard the quote “what do parents know anyway“. Generally quoted by some exasperated parent trying to deliver a pearl of wisdom on their resistant teenagers. Research has indicated that the ‘aargh’ gap is filled with two impenetrable substances called ‘A’ and ‘B’ fillers. The former being the Assumption Filler and the latter being the Behaviour Filler. Teenagers are convinced they are right and there is nothing you can tell them that will convince them otherwise. The ‘A’ and ‘B’ fillers block new ideas and behaviours from being adopted by causing them to be totally convinced they are right. It is sad to see them suffer from ‘aargh’ and medically it appears to be untreatable.

Unfortunately, it is not uncommon to relapse and occasionally suffer from brief bouts of ‘aargh’. Those moments where you are unable to receive new knowledge because you held on to a thought that you refused to relinquish. Recovery is normally identified with the statement “if only I had listened to…” followed by the name of the older person who gave you some advice. If you cannot identify a relapse, you may be suffering from ‘aargh’ right this very moment.

The Cure to aargh is ‘Letting Go’

I lived in Africa for a portion of my life. There some tribes used a unique method to catch monkeys by hollowing out a plant similar to a pumpkin, filling it with a delicacy and then leaving it tethered to a tree for a monkey to find. A monkey would reach in and grab the desired delicacy and be trapped because the hole had been deliberately made just big enough for a flexible hand to enter but not for a closed fist to leave. In short order, the monkey went from getting his dinner to being someone else’s dinner.

Clearly it was not the pumpkin that was trapping the monkey. Rather the true trap was in the monkey’s own mind, the monkey’s greed, the monkey’s attachment to his perceived treasure. The monkey’s unwillingness to “Let Go.”

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Leadership Tip: Two Questions Leaders Must Ask

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There is an old Chinese proverb where a martial arts student approached his teacher with a question. “I’d like to improve my knowledge of the martial arts. In addition to learning from you, I’d like to study with another teacher in order to learn another style. What do you think of this idea?”

The old master looked intently at the young man, then delivered his pearl of wisdom, “The hunter who chases two rabbits, catches neither one.”

As a young leader, I was sitting at a seminar where an International leader was discussing the ‘Power of Focus’. He asked what was a simple and yet powerful question. He then explained if we could answer the question and stay focused on the answer it would

  • Increase the level of achievement in our personal lives
  • Makes us better leaders
  • Bring alignment to organisations
  • Increase your motivational skills as a leader
  • Give your life more energy and drive

I have found that his bold claims had merit but not for everyone. Yet after adding a second question, which must be asked in tandem, the success rate of his assertions increased dramatically. I will explain why later.

Key Question

The simple question he asked was “What do you want”. Sounds so simple but when asked authentically it stops people in their tracks.

Whether it is a project, a meeting, or establishing the direction of the company it is far too easy to bypass the one question that will bring focus. Instead we jump to

  • What we will do and
  • How we will do it

Failure to start with the fundamental question “What do we really want to achieve here?” leaves people, teams and organisations wasting effort and energy.

The question, ‘What do you want’, takes advantage of some key aspects to our human wiring. Neuroscientist, Daniel Bor explains that the human nervous system is ‘future obsessed’. Unconsciously we constantly filter the world for what we want even though we do not always honour it. Author of the best seller “The How of Happiness” and Psychology professor, Sonja Lyubomirsky, states we are happier when we are living with intention. All of which resonates with the 1968 breakthrough research by Dr. Edwin Locke which found that those who had a form of objective or goal performed higher and operated more effectively.

If this is true why does it not work for everyone? The reason this question is not as effective when asked by itself is because the answers are classed as an abstraction. Abstractions are concepts. Ideas that are not tangible and cannot be visualised in concrete terms. They include concepts such as justice, peace, success. All these words are ideas that cannot be pictured in our head. We can picture an event that reflects the concept but not the concept itself.

Abstract concepts are energising. They excite us. So when people respond to the question “What do you want”

You may garner responses like

  • I want to be rich
  • I want a successful company
  • I want ..[you fill in responses you have heard]

All of which will excite and energise them. However at this point it is only a concept and is not enough to really make a difference for most. The reason is that they cannot picture rich, or success. This is where the second question is so crucial.

It is the second question that turns the abstraction into something to truly aim for. A visual target.

Second Key Question

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Keeping in the Leadership Zone – Part 2

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In the previous article we began to discuss what is required to help leaders get into the zone? Here are three more keys to ensure that you find the Zone…..

3. Monitor your Emotional Gauge

Our personal emotional gauge is often under-monitored. You may be intellectually inspired, physically fit, yet ‘emotionally depleted’. Figuring out how to replenish our emotional levels is vital. I like to audit my life by using a tool I call the (more…)

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Keeping in the Leadership Zone

- Part 1

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You do not need to watch much sport before you will hear commentators talk about the sportspeople being in or out of the ‘Zone’.  The elusive ‘Zone’!  It is in the zone that these athletes seem relaxed, perform at the higher level and are able to win games against the odds.  At the Olympics there are a number of athletes who can compete at the same level. Many have beaten each other at previous athletic competitions. However, often it is the athlete that feels like they are ‘in the zone on the day’ that stands on the dais with a medal.

This notion applies to leadership as well. We have moments when we are really hitting the mark and other times when we feel off our game. Before we uncover how to get in the zone lets uncover what it is like, when we are not in the zone.

 Assess yourself on this TEN point checklist.

As leaders, we are NOT in the zone when.

  •  Our decision making tends to take longer.
  •  You gravitate towards mundane activities as an escape
  •  We become reactionary towards those that we lead.
  •  We may become a little short tempered.
  •  We feel the pressure of our work more than usual.
  •  Work lacks the enjoyment that it used to.
  •  We feel threatened when ordinarily we would feel confident.
  •  You forget what you are actually trying to achieve.
  •  You begin to feel numb relationally.
  •  You find yourself tidying your desk again.

Unfortunately, these symptoms tend to cause individuals to strive harder. To push more with little or no discernible results. This effectively drives them further out of the zone rather than into the zone.

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi pioneered much of the initial understanding about ‘the zone’ and wrote the book “Flow”. This breakthrough notion of the zone has become a fundamental concept for those coaching people into peak performance. Sports psychologists over the years have realised that this is not some ethereal topic but rather when athletes feel relaxed and confident, they get into ‘their zone’ that results in superior performance.

What is required to help leaders get into The Zone? Here are a few keys to ensure that you find the Zone…..

1. Know your Balance Indicator (BI)

Balanced pressure is essential to getting in the zone. For many, people pressure equals performance and certainly we can occasionally peak perform under pressure.  But, we cannot consistently peak perform under pressure for an extended period of time.

Every person needs to find his or her own “Balance Indicator” (BI) activity in his or her life.  There are some activities that you know, when done, replenish your life and act as an indicator that your life is in balance. These activities could be considered your ‘balance indicator’ highlighting your emotional well-being.  For some people it may be that they’ve attended gym regularly. For others it may be reading. For others still it may be time with their children or partner. It may be sitting on a couch and looking out at the ocean. Whatever it may be there are activities that act as the litmus test as to whether your life is in balance or whether you are under too much pressure.

 2. Manage your Confidence

Ironically many leaders leave confidence to ‘chance’ instead of learning to manage their confidence. A few tense meetings and a few minor failures can rob us of the confidence that is so essential to being “in the zone”. A lack of confidence, low self-esteem and second-guessing oneself does not facilitate being in the zone. Managing your confidence levels and being comfortable with ‘who you are’ is a critical element to performance. Something as leaders we must do proactively and not leave to chance.

Two practices to proactively manage your confidence:

  • Reclaim what you want. Beware of people pleasing. It is the desire to make others happy at your own expense. This can lead to an erosion of self-confidence. You lose sight of who you are, what you want and your personal goals.
  • Refocus on the positive elements in your life. So often we can lose confidence when we get focused on what is not quite going according to plan. The failures and frustrations.  Remind yourself to spend a moment every day to celebrate and be grateful for even the little things.

Part 2 coming soon

By Aiden Holliday

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